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 Females usually try to avoid permanent relationships until they are established, or expect to shortly become established, in a permanent location (or sufficiently stable life situation). In terms of land, this does not necessarily mean literal //ownership// - many [[takma:|takma]] families are serfs or tenants - so much as that the female has a defined area that she lives in, that she feels is her home and she belongs in, and that she is not likely to be dislodged from (especially by the legal owner).
-The yearning for a territory of one's own tends to emerge between two-and-a-half and three cycles of age: early or mid-adolescence. Being most familiar with and comfortable in the one in which she was raised, a young female may feel inclined to challenge her mother's authority there, as well as any sisters who are of an age to be doing the same thing. This also applies to situations that take the same role in the subconscious; the character [[person:ilirith|Ilirith]] was taken from her literal family in early childhood, but was raised under the aegis of the [[person:ankorineth|Matriarch]] of [[avishraa:community:alvraan|Alvraan]], who effectively became her adoptive mother.
+The yearning for a territory of one's own tends to emerge between two-and-a-half and three cycles of age: early or mid-adolescence. Being most familiar with and comfortable in the one in which she was raised, a young female may feel inclined to challenge her mother's authority there, as well as any sisters who are of an age to be doing the same thing. This also applies to situations that take the same role in the subconscious; the character [[person:ilirith|Ilirith]] was taken from her literal family in early childhood, but was raised under the aegis of the [[person:ankorineth|Matriarch]] of [[geopolitical:Alvraan:]], who effectively became her adoptive mother.
 Prosperous families are able to defuse this situation by giving the daughter a sufficiently large amount of personal space and authority to satisfy them; the very wealthy may have enough land to simply carve off a piece and give it to the daughter, but more usual is to make the girl a tenant on the property, or else to give her her own large personal space and a specific role in the management of her mother's affairs. (This is essentially the solution the Matriarch used for Ilirith, who was kept quite content with her own space and a vital role protecting the Matriarch's interests.)
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 A female without a particular destination in mind, or else one that is relatively far away, is likely to take up traveling with a party that is going in a direction she is willing to go. Some cultures have a practice of sending all a community's daughters of a certain age off at the same time, so that they can travel together. While this usually presents no insurmountable problems for relatively short journeys, over longer stretches of time the arrangement works best with close-knit communities whose families are already well-acquainted and new personal frictions can be kept to a minimum. Groups of females who are relatively unfamiliar with their traveling companions not only feel displaced in each others' presence, but can suffer from tensions related to sorting of status, and divide into mutually hostile cliques.
-If a [[culture:organization:male-band|male band]] (see below) with a sufficiently good reputation is passing through the area, a young female may instead travel with them, usually in exchange for being a working member of the band during the journey. Both parties often find this a relatively pleasing arrangement. The female has traveling companions who do not threaten her status, who have seen things and been places beyond her experience, and some of whom may well catch her eye - and, if the reverse is true, may lead to [[takma:behaviors#Courtship|coaxing gifts]]. For their part, the males may find the female's presence materially useful - her strength might allow her to lift or pull things that might otherwise be awkward - but are also often quite happy to have a relatively exclusive opportunity to lavish attention on her for a while.
+If a [[takma:behaviors#male_bands|male band]] (see below) with a sufficiently good reputation is passing through the area, a young female may instead travel with them, usually in exchange for being a working member of the band during the journey. Both parties often find this a relatively pleasing arrangement. The female has traveling companions who do not threaten her status, who have seen things and been places beyond her experience, and some of whom may well catch her eye - and, if the reverse is true, may lead to [[takma:behaviors#courtship|coaxing gifts]]. For their part, the males may find the female's presence materially useful - her strength might allow her to lift or pull things that might otherwise be awkward - but are also often quite happy to have a relatively exclusive opportunity to lavish attention on her for a while.
 Actual sex happens less often than one might think; traveling in a group for safety limits the opportunities for privacy. But it is not unusual, once the female leaves the group and settles in her new home, for one or more of her traveling companions to leave with her.