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--- language:imperial:contemporary:vocabulary [2024/01/30 13:35] – shyriath
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 ===== Relationship terms =====
-There is a rich variety of terms to describe the type of personal relationship that one person has with another. They are arranged below in approximately increasing order of emotional closeness, though there may be slight irregularities due to the specific nature of the relationship in question. Where a pair of words is given, the relationship is considered in some way asymmetrical between two roles, often (if not always) due to gender.
+There is a rich variety of terms to describe the type of personal relationship that one person has with another. Each section is arranged below in approximately increasing order of emotional closeness, though there may be slight irregularities due to the specific nature of the relationship in question. Where a pair of words is given, the relationship is considered in some way asymmetrical between two roles, often (if not always) due to gender.
+==== Social ====
   * **ereta** - //outcast//: One who is //ereta// has only the most rudimentary contact with society at large or none at all. This may be due to being shunned, exiled, imprisoned in isolation, or made an outlaw for some particularly socially intolerable behavior (depending on the society, this may be anything from a horrible crime to mental illness to overt gender nonconformity), but someone who has a distaste for society may become a hermit and are said to have made themselves //ereta//. //Eretar// may have people that they maintain positive relations with on an individual basis, but are geographically or socially unintegrated. Despite the asymmetrical nature of the relationship, there is no specific counterpart term for one who considers another //ereta//; that is considered simply being "normal".
   * **tinaak** - //enemy//: A //tinaak// is one who is the subject of at least intense dislike, if not disgust, hatred or loathing, from another - essentially, someone who another cannot interact with in a civil manner. By the very nature of the relationship, the perception of being //tinaak// is usually mutual. While one may be //tinaak// to someone and operate quite normally in society, a person who too many people begin to consider //tinaak// may slide into //ereta// as a social antagonist.
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   * **rehnama**/**alhrama** - //illustrious/////humble//: these terms are used in describing an asymmetrical relationship based on social position. A //rehnama// is one of a higher class or rank than oneself or has a positive public reputation: they are someone who one considers to be due respect and deference. The use of the term's counterpart, //alhrama//, is technically correct in all cases, but in practice occupies a continuum with //sayel// for the inferior position, based on the nature of the distance between the two participants. //Alhrama// is used for those who have an official position of subservience, who are a greater social distance beneath the //rehnama//, or generally when the difference between the two is being emphasized (ex. queen/vassal, teacher/student, decorated war hero/peasant), whereas informal or less dramatic social differences tend to contrast //rehnama// with //sayel// (musician/fan, supervisor and a worker they are close to, etc.). While relationships of these kinds do not necessarily have a sexual dimension, //rehnamar// are often in a position to elicit sex from their followers, if sexual orientation and marital status permit. //Rehnama//-based distinctions are generally considered impersonal, since they do not depend on how well, or even whether, the participants know each other; as a result, it is possible for the terms to represent the public face of a relationship while others are used in private, though this is more difficult the more //alhrama//-like the inferior's position is.
   * **tham** - //friend//: a //tham// is someone who one knows well enough to consider them pleasant, or at least non-threatening, to be around or talk to. The term is somewhat looser than the English word //friend//; //thamar// are perfectly happy to socialize when they meet, but may or may not go out of their way to spend significant time with each other and do not usually feel in a position to ask unconditional favors of each other. A **tham** relationship is generally a minimum requirement for [[takma:behaviors#grooming]] of more than the most perfunctory sort, or for sexual contact beyond the purely transactional.
-  * **arrai**/**davlakye** - //companion/////bond-sister//: those who are //aryir// are, in human terms, close friends. They carry a significant share of each others' trust, they spend time together and pursue various activities together, they are comfortable with one-on-one grooming, and they provide aid without guarantee of repayment. Forming //arrai// relationships is generally easier with and between men, for whom they form the cores of most [[takma:behaviors#male bands]]. The often competitive nature of relationships between females means that the ability to relax one's guard sufficiently to form this kind of bond with another woman is a relatively rare and treasured thing, and although it is accepted as a variant of //arrai//, when it does occur it is usually said of the women in question that they are //davlakyer//. It is generally felt that an //arrai//-level bond is necessary for a romantic relationship or for a successful marriage, though the two are not necessarily expected to be found together.
+  * **arrai**/**davlakye** - //companion/////bond-sister//: those who are //aryir// are, in human terms, close friends. They carry a significant share of each others' trust, they spend time together and pursue various activities together, they are comfortable with one-on-one grooming, and they provide aid without guarantee of repayment. Forming //arrai// relationships is generally easier with and between men, for whom they form the cores of most [[takma:behaviors#male bands]]. The often competitive nature of relationships between females means that the ability to relax one's guard sufficiently to form this kind of bond with another woman is a relatively rare and treasured thing, and although it is accepted as a variant of //arrai//, when it does occur it is usually said of the women in question that they are //davlakyer//. It is generally felt that an //arrai//-level bond is necessary for romantic love or for a successful marriage, though the latter two are not necessarily expected to be found together.
+==== Sexual and romantic ====
+These relationship terms run in parallel to the social ones. Though, as noted, there may be correspondences with particular sorts of social bond, they are often somewhat flexible.
+Terms of this type tend to be [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heteronormativity|heteronormative]]/[[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisnormativity|cisnormative]], as most cultures that use Imperial extensively have this outlook. Where one or both participants are not the "correct" ones, they will, if acknowledged at all, generally be referred to by the terms most closely corresponding with their behavioral roles in the relationship. Those cultures with less restrictive outlooks may employ local terms, but generally do not have wider currency of use.
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